When You Change; Everything Changes

When you start to set boundaries and fit other people into your schedule, rather than you into theirs, you will be amazed at how much more time you have to do the things that are important to you. 

As you learn to set boundaries, your circle of friends and social engagements may change slightly. As you reduce the unnecessary commitments you have in your life, you may also find that some of the people that you have collected along the way move out of your life. It is completely okay for this to happen and it should not be met with feelings of guilt.

You may like to consider setting some of the following boundaries in your life to create space to work on your mental and physical wellbeing:

  • Agree as a family not to take any calls during meal times. Turn off mobile phones or allow calls to go to message bank
  • Consider implementing the 24 hour rule with your children, where you require 24 hours notice for drop offs and pickups for social engagements 
  • Allocate appropriate cooking, washing, ironing and cleaning duties to older children, which will also enable them to grow into productive, self sufficient adults
  • Email can be a constant interruption. Allocate specific times for checking your email, maybe twice a day
  • Minimise junk emails by asking your friends not to send them or if you don’t know the sender, add them to the blocked sender list
  • Sometimes we subscribe to websites in a moment of enthusiasm and are then bombarded with newsletters and emails. If you are no longer interested in the content, unsubscribe from the newsletters. 
  • Say “No” to requests that encroach on your Happy Mind Time

Purchase your copy now

Tags: , , , ,

11 Responses to When You Change; Everything Changes

  1. Lesley says:

    Great post! Something I have to watch out for!!

  2. Tracey, it took me a long time to learn the skill of setting boundaries. It took me awhile to realize that when you don’t play your ‘role’ anymore it upsets other people. It took me dumping my ‘martyr’ gene to recognize that my time and energy was worthy. Thanks for your take on this.

    • tracey says:

      Hi Natalie, I used to get so anxious when I knew that I was going to have to say “no” to someone and for me that anxiety came from low self-esteem. I feared that these people would not like me anymore or even worse no longer want me as part of their lives. Over time I began to undertsand that when I respected myself and my time others respected me also.

  3. Nice post. I am constantly working on not checking my email as often and continue to unsubscribe to websites that no longer interest me. Glad to know I am not alone.

  4. Madonna says:

    So true Tracey. So many people whinge about how others treat them and it is their own lack of boundaries that are the real problem. Great post. thanks for sharing.
    Madonna

    • tracey says:

      Hi Madonna, I agree. I think we are all guiltly of this and it is lovely when we have that AHA moment and realise that we do actually have the power to make a difference to the way our day unfolds.
      regards Tracey

  5. Annie Clark says:

    oh very powerful and purposeful suggestions – I will embrace some of these for sure… thanks Tracey, you clever girl you! By the way, the book! I must get myself a copy…. just don’t be worried if it’s not straight away, I’m up to my neck in several other books at present, as well as writing my own… mmm…
    love Annie Clark.

    • tracey says:

      Hi Anne, thank you, I hope the suggestions help to ceate some more space for your writing. I hope you enjoy my book Happy Mind Formula when you get time.
      regards Tracey

  6. Lisa Wood says:

    I like the idea of the phone being turned off at lunch/dinner time and also the email idea – I so need to find time once a day to check emails, and to clean out my folders 🙂

    Cheers
    Lisa

  7. Bethany Rice says:

    I really appreciate this post. I?
    Welcome to my blogger registered advisor.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *