Goal Set to Create Self Worth

 Setting and achieving goals is the first step towards creating a positive self image and outlook. Setting goals creates purpose in our lives. When we have purpose we find our identity, we feel valued, we feel capable and this in turn changes our behaviour and how we function in the world.

Goal setting is an important part of moving forward from depression. Although the black, paralysing feeling often associated with depression makes you feel as though it is the last thing you could do; it is so important to start. I learned early on that “doing” was an important part of crawling out of the black hole.

 “Without goals the mind begins to wander, and more often than not it will focus on unresolvable problems that create anxiety”

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Setting small goals initially will make them easier to achieve, allowing you to slowly build your confidence and energy levels. It is these small successes that will slowly but surely build your self esteem and move you toward setting greater goals. Start with short term goals, such as writing a list in the evening of what you would like to achieve the next day. Writing a list helps with the poor concentration that is often associated with anxiety and depression.

 Your list for the day may be as simple as

1. Get out of bed

2. Go for a walk

3. Shower

 4. Have breakfast

5. Pay the bills

 6. Vacuum the house

Work on what you can where you can, but at least write the list. Tick the list off as you achieve each goal and congratulate yourself on having done so. If there is something on the list that you did not get to, do not berate yourself; simply add it on to the next day’s list. As you start to feel a little stronger, challenge yourself by adding more activities or tasks to your list each day.

 The symptoms of anxiety and depression can often be at their worst first thing in the morning, making this the most difficult time to cope. If you feel better in the evenings, maybe this is a good time to get things marked off your list, like making sure that your room or house is tidy, the dishes are done and your clothes are laid out ready to start the next day. When you go to bed at night, have everything ready, including all the basic ingredients to prepare a Happy Mind Breakfast.

“If you aim at nothing, you are sure to hit it every time” Zig Ziglar

Achieving small goals will empower you to repeat these tasks daily and move onto bigger and better things. As time goes by, you will feel more confident to start setting some long term goals. Long term goals may include taking up a new hobby, starting a training course, joining an exercise group, finding a new place to live or looking for a new job. The possibilities are endless and very achievable, if you take baby steps along the way.

 In order to set long term goals, some of the things you may like to ask yourself are:

 • What motivates me?

• What interests me?

• What would I do more of if I could?

• What do I want in my life?

 • What am I passionate about?

• Where do I want my life to go?

 • What makes me happy and brings me joy?

 • What are my dreams and hopes for the future?

 When you set long term goals it is important to break them down into smaller tasks to prevent feeling overwhelmed and resulting in doing nothing. Choose one long term goal at a time and have a look at how you can break that down into achievable steps, so that each day you do something towards achieving that goal. Your daily task could be as small as making one phone call or sending one email that will move you slowly and surely towards your long term goal.

 “The journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step”  Lao Tzu

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2 Responses to Goal Set to Create Self Worth

  1. It is so true.. breaking down goals into achievable steps is so important in depression. The whole idea is to not get overwhelmed but bring in a sense of hope and purpose.

    Well done Tracey
    Lots of love
    Vanessa

    • tracey says:

      Hi Vanessa, I couldn’t agree more. If we do not learn to chunk to the bigger goal down into achievable steps we become overwhelmed. hen overwhelm sets in we feel paralysed and end up doing nothing.

      Health and Happiness Tracey

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